Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And why that's safer)

Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy?

In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less.

If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn:

• Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul death

• The difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an action

• How the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less loving

• The moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationship

• How "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnership

• Why boundaries and conditions are actually deeply loving

• How to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly loved

• Real examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shift

Key Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney.

Listen to the podcast here.